Are Dating Apps Great for Introverts? - My Fails

What a juicy topic to start off my blogging revival. But hey, exploring my cringe past always gives me a buzz.

If you've ever had the fortune/misfortune of meeting me in person, you'll be seeing a 5"11 woman trying her best to make you laugh within the first conversation. Whether that's a success or failure, that habit's actually deeply rooted in my introversion.

Okay so if you're a pal of mine reading this, I know it's hard to believe that I'm an introvert since I can't seem to stop yapping most of the time, but hey, if I get talkative around you, that means you're cool to me!

But yes, introversion - it saved me from disaster but also landed me in some pretty unpleasant stuff. So how did this affect my dating life specifically? Simple.

It gave me a warped sense of loyalty on dating apps.

While dating apps are designed to give us choices until we become "official" with someone, my introversion made me look at it different. The second I agree to go out with a dude (in person), I immediately stopped chatting with other guys.

But wait. The guy doesn't owe me shit. It's just the first date. There's 0% exclusivity at this stage. So why Hannah, would you do this?

Well... I just couldn't multi-task. It actually takes a lot of energy (mostly passionate internal debates in my brain) to decide if I wanted to meet someone in person. So when a physical date is set, so is my mind. Instead of distracting myself and wasting energy chatting with other dudes, I wanted to give my full, undivided attention to the person I meet.

See how problematic that was?

I was always too hyped about the dates and never bothered playing any games. I AM available and I had no problems letting you know.

And I had the cheek to wonder why I got ghosted sometimes...

If you've managed to read till this part of the blog, you can see how my introversion made me come off uber strong on any guy. I understand that. But strangely, it was this trait that gave me my first long-term dating success.

Now I won't go into the nitty gritty of my latest love story but it's interesting to see how my warped sense of loyalty on dating apps eventually landed me a cool dude who cherishes my weirdness.

So this is a long story of how a dating late-bloomer like me self-reflects on her insanely awkward dating life.